Love sucks! Dating Apps are the Devil!

Finding that special someone can feel like an impossible task! How do we even go about doing that? Do we make a list of what we like and go over the checklist on the first date? How do we even get to the first date? What physical features am I attracted to? Am I looking to get married or do I just want to have fun? There are a lot of questions to ask yourself and things to consider. The whole dating game is just messed up! Don't worry, I will be going more in-depth!

First thing I want to touch on is that dating in your 20s, 30s, 40s, and so on are totally different experiences. When you were a teenager, everything was simple; everyone was jobless and lived with their parents. So your option for dating locations is basically somewhere free like the mall. When you are in your 20s, things change a little bit. Hopefully by now you have a job, can go out to eat, and see a movie. Nothing fancy, but you are just happy to be going on a date and have some freedom to decide what you do. Usually limited by your income because, let's face it, pushing carts at the local grocery store doesn't bring in that six-figure income you were hoping for. In your 30s, things start to really take a turn. By now, you realize that you will not be with your high school sweetheart forever. You will run into a lot of divorced people with children. This is a sensitive subject because some people don't want the extra baggage while others are open to it. Then there are the damaged goods, those who have gone through domestic violence and spousal abuse. This happens on both sides. Men cheat on women and women cheat on men. Trust issues. Dating in your 40s is very similar to your 30s, but the kids you deal with are teenagers to adults and just treat you poorly. They will test you in ways that will make your blood boil and risk a prison sentence. Just walk away, homie! No booty is worth going to jail. I can't speak on dating at other ages, but I'm sure it's a lot of the same.

Now let's dive into dating apps and online dating. The first thing I will say is that these are traps that are very misleading and can cost you a lot of money. Especially nowadays with the use of AI, you will be catfished by bots with fake profiles messaging and conning you into upgrading subscriptions and such. But there are a lot of pieces of shit online who make fake profiles and get off on messing with people's emotions. I'm like, how big of a loser are you that you have nothing better to do but live a fake life and have total disregard for someone else's feelings, just to please your own sick mental issue which you are trying to mask. It's really bad online. But I'm not saying that everyone online is fake. I know people who have actually found love online. And they are happily married. Very few numbers. Like two couples. Lol. My personal experience was horrible. I ran into a lot of con artists trying to get money from me. I had the 20-year-old profile picture people. The picture of face-only profile people. Not too many people are for real online or tell the truth. It's sad. But unfortunately, that's how it is with dating sites. So beware!

Now I'm going to finish with the double standard in online dating. You will run into people who have a list of requirements they demand of a partner or spouse, but they don't believe they need to hold up to that standard. For example, one of the things that annoyed the heck out of me when I read someone's profile is the list of things they require, such as a newer car, a six-figure income, a house, six-pack abs, and no kids. You look at their profile pics (which tell a lot! Seriously, a lot!) and discover they are complete slobs, live with grandma, have no car, and five kids (apparently with different fathers). So I have to be rich and sexy, but you can be stank and broke. That is the standard, huh? I cannot tell you the number of dates I've been on in which the person in front of me wasn't even worth the free cup of water you get with a lemon. Of course, I was always expected to pay. And they definitely took offense when I told the waiter I will take care of my own tab. Which didn't happen often but sometimes things go south before you even order food. I've had instances when it ended before the waiter even asked what we were drinking. Best practice is to meet up somewhere neutral first like a park or coffee shop and figure out if a date is even necessary.

Best advice that I can give is, stay away from dating sites. Don't rush into relationships. First, become happy being single. Trust me, it has its advantages. Once you do that, things will happen naturally and you will meet that special someone. It may take some time but it will happen. I met my current wife at the beach with friends. Now we are inseparable! She is my favorite dinner date and can pick the best restaurants. And it all happened by chance!